Friday, November 23, 2007

WHY IS IT.....??

  • (thanks for the bullet idea, Jennifer!) Why is it that we sometimes dread things that we know will probably turn out really good?? I was dreading going to Thanksgiving this year because a family member was going to announce their pregnancy. I was dreading that. Not because I'm not happy for them, but because at the same time I'm happy for THEM, I'm sad for us. I was also dreading seeing some in-laws. They are ones that I don't usually feel comfortable around; I feel like I can't be myself. But then I got there, and is the usual way, I ended up having a great time. We laughed, I was myself, we had great food. I had no reason to dread...
  • Why is it that we don't get the help we need? It's right there at our fingertips. This is AMERICA, for goodness' sake! We have so many resources! If our arm is broken, we get a cast. If a tire blows out, we get a new one. If our clothing rips (and we don't sew!), we buy new clothes. But on some things, we just refuse. I shouldn't say we "refuse" - we ACCEPT the problem as part of our routine. For instance, let's say I develop a limp. I have to buy special shoes because of it. I get tired really fast because walking is such a chore. I can't do certain physical activities, etc. And then let's say that instead of going to the doctor or specialist or naturalist or spiritualist or any other "ist" that I think MIGHT help, I just make the limp part of my routine. It becomes an extension of me; an extension of my choices during any given day. So instead of getting help, which is readily available, I just adapt to the discomfort. Why is that??
  • Why is it that we forget that we need each other? I need you. You need me. And that's a good thing.

2 comments:

evil cake lady said...

You're welcome about the bullet points! I think I may be a little addicted to them...

I totally agree--we need each other. It's part of being human. I don't know how or when or where we all got it into our heads to be self-sufficient and independent and not need anyone--but I keep seeing it be more harmful than not. I'm not saying that we shouldn't learn how to be self sufficient and independent and be able to take care of ourselves--I think it is very important to learn to how to that. But what if being a true adult or a mature person meant that you could do it all on your own and by yourself, but you choose not to--because you know having people support you and help you is important?

I dunno--just typing off the top of my head here.

Star Char said...

Great points, ECL. I especially like what you said about, ok, maybe we DO know how to do something, but reaching out is more important than knowing - or conveying we know. When did we stop asking questions? You know, when we were kids, we didn't mind not knowing everything. As adults, it seems we feel we need to know all the answers or something about every topic under the sun. Not true! The day I stop asking questions is the day I stop learning. The day I stop learning, I may as well hang it up!

Can't wait to see you tomorrow night! I'll have a yummy pumpkin cheesecake pecan cake thingy! :-)